Wednesday, November 30, 2011

A need, A want, and The gift of Christmas Time ...With Kim Adams



The wonderful Christmas season is here again! I love nearly everything about Christmas. The Smells, the food, the presents:) but most of all, the traditions. It is so tempting to spoil our children rotten and buy them everything on their 3 foot long list, but is that what it is all about? Jesus is the reason for the season!(I bet this is the first time you have heard that) In our house it is important that our kids understand why we celebrate, and its important we teach them to be giving. One thing I love to do every year is take each kid separately to the dollar store to buy their siblings, dad, and grandparents gifts. I especially love watching the grandparents open these hideous dollar store gifts. But the point is that the kids pick things out specifically thinking of others. And it doesn't have to cost a lot.

Back a few years ago we instilled a tradition for our kids and their gift getting. I don't know about you, but my kids pretty much want everything they see on TV. Last year my daughter could just hear the commercials and yell "I want that!" It became the joke in the family to yell it before she could, which meant we had dibs on it:) One way we have tried to simmer down the gift-o-rama at Christmas is having the kids make their list based on a NEED~shoes, clothes (my boys hate clothes), etc., a WANT, toys, toys toys,.and my favorite part of this whole thing is the
GIFT OF CHRISTMAS TIME.

So let me explain….

*The NEED* 
this teaches my boys that it is ok to get underwear or 
any clothing for that matter because the needed it. 


*The WANT*
 this is where we lay down some rules, we ask them to pick the things they want in order of 
"I want sooo bad" to " I would like".
 They know they will not get everything and depending on how expensive, 
they may only get one thing off that list. 
Now before you start panicking, they still get things from grandparents, aunts, uncles and yes, Santa:) But Santa is in a recession folks, and he has had to cut back too:) 

And my favorite part…. 

*THE GIFT OF CHRISTMAS TIME*
 is the best part of this whole deal. 
On their list they also describe what gift of our time they would like. 
A date with mom, or dad or both. My kids love this! 
As many of you know, when you have more then one child it is very hard for 
each child to have their own alone time with mom or dad. 
 It can be a special movie date ALONE or maybe your son loves helicopters (haha my life story), 
so dad can take him to the airport. Whatever it is, it does not need to cost a lot of money. 
Most of all our children want our attention and time, 
that is what this special gift is about! 

Kim... is a married mother of three very "active" children. She manages an Italian restaurant and in one of the original "Saucy Sisters". Saucy Sisters is a sauce and salad dressing company that produces fresh sauces with bold flavors. Striving to make the home cook look like a genius, the Saucy Sisters will take your kitchen to a whole new level!
[Editor's Note: Saucy Sisters creamy pesto is my drug of choice... just sayin]
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Monday, November 28, 2011

"I remember when..." the days of Christmas before plastic trees!!!


It really freaks me out when I talk about things from my past and 
I catch myself saying things like...
"I remember when"...or "When I was a kid, we used to..." 
 these phrases suggest one of two things; either, 
1)my life used to be wayyyy more cool and fun, or  
2)I am getting old.  
and ummm...your not allowed to guess which one it is!!

I had one of those moments today when I was decorating our Christmas tree with my daughter...you see, we weren't just putting it up, we were (and I'm embarrassed to say) assembling it by number.  (I think my grandmother just rolled over in her grave)  You see, 
"When I was a kid, we used to" ...
go up to the family cabin for a weekend of fun in the snow, jump on our snowmobiles with a trailer in tow, and go out into the forest and find the perfect tree to bring home to adorn our living room.  It was kinda like the scene from Christmas Vacation when the Griswold family hikes out into the wilderness frozen faces and all and end up pulling up a monster tree by the roots and lugging it home on the top of their station wagon.  The main difference is that we always brought an axe!!  Good, no GREAT times!  It was so much fun year after year to go on the tree hunt...although now that I am an adult, I fully realize that even though my mom was a good sport, she probably never liked the scronny trees we lugged home, but I'm guessing the experience made up for the ugly tree that sat in our living room each month of December. 
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My ornaments match the color of my home decor, I even had our stockings made out of my fav. colors, that have nothing to do with Christmas ;).  (I'm only admitting to that because it's SOOOO ridiculous!) I have disco balls, teal icicles, and white with silver bows...I have mirrored stars, glittery snowflakes and sparkly sicks...and here is the terrible part that I am embarrassed to admit...I don't have any handmade ornaments on my tree!  (I think I just gasped along with you all!) I rearrange ornaments that my kids put on the tree after bedtime...and I kinda don't believe you if you say you don't ;)
"I remember when..."
we would "help" my mother decorate our tree with all of the ugly, super sweet and specially made ornaments that me and my siblings had made.  I was so proud knowing that it was my craftiness that made our tree so special.  In fact, I think my mom just stopped using them a few years ago, and I'm not sure that I am over it yet!  Such rejection! ;) Our stockings were handmade by my great grandma, a she uses those still!
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I have to admit to getting the Justin Beiber Christmas CD..(can I blame it on my kids??) In one song, he sings about Jesus, Michael Jackson, and Hanukah, he even raps in it, but the best part, he mentions twitter followers!!! WHAT??????  twitter followers on a Christmas album????
"When I was a kid..."
We would get out the Eve CD...Oh my, it was a record!!!  And listen to "come on ring those bells, light the Christmas tree, Jesus is the King, born to you and me...."  Nothing about kissing under mistletoe, twitter, or rapping!  This is just a side note..but I just tried to find the Eve song we used to listen to, and all I could find was a youtube video of some dude playing it on his accordion!! I am cracking up right now!!!  OK...I can't resist putting it in...you have to check out the other dude who is listening, I'm guessing his wife drug him there!!  Ahahahaha!!!!

Ok...now that that rant is over...I have no big point, other than today I was re-inspired to make the Christmas season super special and memory making for my family.  I want my kids to look back and think about all of the cool things we did as a family...not the gifts they got, or the "perfect decorations" but the things we did together, the things we did for others!  I am starting with the "advent calendar" Lindsay showed us how to make.  We will be making memories!!!  I would love to know what you did growing up, or what you do with your family now...lets inspire each other!!!  


I'm Gena...a self titled "professional mess picker upper". Becoming the mother of the two, mommy titled "mess makers" was not an easy road. I've been thru the struggle of infertility, and ended up with the two most amazing children thru the miracle of adoption. If you like to learn, but don't take life very seriously, we will get along just fine...I will never be stagnant, mentally or physically...(o.k. so maybe I will sometimes ;)...so, Ready, Set, Go!!!



Friday, November 25, 2011

Crafty Bidness... The Anti Martha Strikes Again...


The last couple of years I have dabbled in "adventy" type crafts, but it's usually thrown together last minute and I am usually a swearing, sweaty mess by the time the stupid craft is done. (See my "Someone almost died the last time we did a craft" post for more details on how my kids we're almost eaten alive). Anyway, every year it seems like it's mid december before I remember "Oh yeah, I was going to make an actual advent calendar this year."
Well not this year... thanks to my new crack like addiction, Pinterest , I've gotten a few ideas to help make the month of December special and full of fun darn it! (My eye is already twitching and my pits are sweating profusely as I type... this is how UN-CRAFTY mama really is:))

So, whether you get your craft on and make some schmancy calendar -OR-  you're like me (and Gena) and your calendar consists of gluing paper together... here are 25 days of crafts and activities to fill those calendars up:) [WARNING: this is just what I'm doing with my children, I don't know if I'm doing it the "right" way, but my point was just to spend more time together and make memories... hopefully I won't scar them in the process:)]

  • Dec. 1st Read: Luke 1:31-32, Make an angel ornament.
  • Dec. 2nd Make Christmas Tree Decoration
  • Dec. 3rd Read Christmas Story 
  • Dec. 4th Make Snowflake Marshmallows
  • Dec. 5th Watch Polar Express with hot chocolate
  • Dec 6th  Read Luke 1:33 & Rev 19:16 King of Kings, Decorate Crowns
  • Dec. 7th Read Matthew 2:1-6 (Wise Men) Make a glittery ornament
  • Dec. 8th  Read Luke 2:1-7 Joseph and Mary going to bethlehem... play hide and seek and pretend we're on a long journey [yes, this is a stretch but mama couldn't handle another day of stinkin crafts!]
  • Dec. 9th Watch St. Nick Veggie Tales
  • Dec. 10th Luke 2:6-7 Build forts with blankets to look like a stable... where jesus was born.
  • Dec. 11th Luke 1:38 {Servernt} Choose someone (friends family neighbor) to serve and serve them as a family.
  • Dec. 12th Read a new Christmas book
  • Dec. 13th Read the whole christmas story [yes, again] this time add a Baby Jesus Craft
  • Dec. 14th Read Philippians 4:4 {Joy} go get hot chocolates and look at Christmas lights
  • Dec. 15th Read Matthew 2:9 {Star of Bethlehem} Make star sugar cookies... [here's a great GFCF recipe]
  • Dec. 16th Watch The Santa Clause Movie (or whatever it's called with Tim Allen) ohh and drink hot chocolate!
  • Dec 17th Read Luke 2:8-14 Color a coloring page of shepherds in a field [mmmhmmm because right about now I'm sure all I will have the brain power to do is print a coloring page... don't judge!:)]
  • Dec. 18th Read Luke 4:3-8 {Bread} Make fresh cinnamon bread and take it to the local teen shelter.
  • Dec. 19th Read Philippians 4:13 {Strength} Pull kids around the house on a blanket ... works best on wood floors [WARNING: your BUTT will be on fire and you may not be able to move the morning after you attempt this... well if you have more than one kid anyway]
  • Dec. 20th Get hot chocolate and go look at Christmas lights... again... hey we like christmas lights!:)
  • Dec. 21st Bake Christmas cookies and take to neighbors
  • Dec. 22nd Read Roman's 12:9 {Love} make a love tree... hmmm that doesn't sound right but oh well... draw a tree on a big piece of paper or wall (if you have a chalk board wall:) and then have your kids list off all of the people they love... write the names like leaves on the branches.
  • Dec 23rd  Read 1 Tim 4:10 {Hope} Decorate picture frame ornaments with your child's pic in it that say hope to remind them that Jesus is their hope.
  • Dec. 24th Make a baby jesus in a manger out of a wooden ball and a mini cardboard box and most likely way too much glitter.. then have your kids give them to you.. hey it's Christmas Eve people baby jesus wasn't born yet... hellooo??:)
  • Dec 25th Merry Christmas! Make a scavenger hunt for your kids looking for their baby Jesus'. At the end place him (or all three of him if you have three kids) in your nativity scene...
OK Don't judge, I'm sure some of you will have your panties in a wad that I have mixed Jesus and Santa... but this is how we role... But you do what's right for your fam:) What's most important for me is to enjoy this month with my kids and hubbs and remember why I choose to celebrate this precious day!


[PSSSST.... in case you're wondering the winner of the EM T shirt from last weeks post is... dah dah dah.... Miss Ashley from Stinker Babies Blog.... Yay!! Congrats!]


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Wednesday, November 23, 2011

TRUE CONFESSIONS ABOUT THANKFULNESS…with Delores Rubino



I haven’t always been a monument to thankfulness. 
Being myself is all about true confessions… and in this particular instance the confession is about not being thankful. Well, at least not being sincerely thankful on a daily basis. I’m hoping, dear reader, that you will understand and maybe even relate to this sad state of affairs.
My youngest son is now 15 and my oldest daughter is 32. My role as mom has morphed into one of part time counselor, observer, gym buddy, and friend.
(it beats changing diapers and cleaning up vomit !)

I remember the early years being a time of constant motion with breaks for taking a breath now and then. I also remember being happy with my role as mom and conflicted at times because I didn’t know if I would ever be “me” again. I wasn’t cranky and irritable all the time, and I did work on being thankful, but I often had to remind myself to work on the thankful part. It was just so much work… all the time !

What a difference a few passing years can make! 

My days are still quite busy, but I have more time for myself….. I actually can choose when I want to go to bed instead of scratching and clawing my way to the bed in a semi-comatose state. I can and do spend more time lost in my own thoughts, enumerating the blessings in my life. It seems that life no longer stands still, but races ahead, and I wonder where the days have gone.
My awareness is heightened and I feel an urgency to take it all in 
and be immensely thankful for the beauty surrounding me. 

I feel that I am making up for lost time in the “cultivating thankfulness” department, and it feels amazing.

If you need any encouragement to cultivate 
a thankful heart, here are a few thoughts: 

1. When you are thankful, you radiate beauty… REAL beauty from the inside out. (botox ain’t got nothin’ on a thankful heart)

2. When you are thankful, you are at peace and calm. (peaceful mama makes for a peaceful home)

3. When you are thankful, you feel strong. (thankful mamas ain’t wimps)

4. When you are thankful, you see the beauty in those around you more clearly. (yes, in the midst of the crazy you will smile)

5. When you are thankful, you just smile more (and smiling is good for your complexion).

There are plenty more reasons to cultivate an attitude of gratitude… I suggest you start practicing and you will discover them all. Let this Thanksgiving Day be the beginning of a new commitment to practice being grateful every day… start with the little things and watch what happens in your heart. 
Carpe Diem !!


Delores... has been a single mom of 8 kids since 1998, when her marriage of 22 years ended. Since that time, she has completed a Masters in Early Intervention/Early Childhood Special Education and began working with Child Development Services in Medford, Oregon in September of 2000. Her message is one of optimism, hope, and tenacity. She tries to be easy on herself, and not take things too seriously, and so humor is the vehicle she rides every day through life. See more of Delores at her blog: www.stateofdelorium.com

Monday, November 21, 2011

Want your man to qualify for the "awesomely amazing man" list??? This post is for you and HIM! Ya guys, it's about YOU today!


I found this little gem on pinterest yesterday, and it has become a sweet little piece of inspiration for me to stray from the norm that we have going on around here...meaning today, I'm gonna talk to the guys!  Ya, you know who you are...Jarrod the dude in the suit hiding in your office with the blinds drawn reading a chick blog!  It's all good, we wont tell.  But wait, all you "chicks" stay put because you are either going to want to add your own "advice" in the comments below, or at the very least post this onto your husbands (or other dude in your life) FB wall, and hope he gets the hint!

Men, for some crazy reason, have come up with this idea that women are complex, hard to figure out, or just plain nuts...well, the nuts part may be right, but the others???  I beg to differ!  You see the problem is, we only need a few simple things, but by the time we have to remind you for the 5380th time, we start to look difficult.  All the while, if you would have gotten it the first time we said it, you would see how simple we really are...am I making any sense???   Just a little side note: I am in no way "male bashing"...I love men, OK that sounds weird, their are 3 "men" that I really love, (maybe 5-8) and the rest of you, I usually like you better than females...oh geez, now I'm really getting in trouble.  Ok, so before I confuse the heck out of all of you, and lose the men because I'm exceeding my daily allotment of words, Ill get to my point.

Here you go men...
a SHORT and SIMPLE list of "do these and you could earn the title of .." 
~awesomely amazing man ~
(and maybe even get a little sumpin in return..oh don't go getting all dirty minded, I was meaning food!)

1)  Do the dishes...If she cooks, clean up.  And I'm not just talking half of them...I'm talking pots, pans, and bambu utensils.  Don't leave anything behind.  I don't know why but a FULLY clean sink screams "I ADORE YOU"..and half done one says, "I only sorta care"  I don't know why, it just does.   Capish??

2)  Tell her how amazing she is...not when you want something, or just when she LOOKS hot...but at the end of the day, frazzled, irritated and crying (is that only me?)  She will relax almost instantly with some simple words of admiration! and also, it's REALLY a good idea to hug her for NO REASON!  We like touches with no strings attached ;)

3)  Don't suggest she shower, brush her teeth, or work out...this will absolutely NOT motivate her to do anything!  Love her unconditionally, JUST THE WAY SHE IS and take care of your own beer gut, we just might follow suit ;)

 and since I said a "short list"...last but certainly not least...

4) HANG UP YOUR (BLEEPIDY BLEEP) CELL PHONE!!!  If you want to make her feel insignificant, unimportant, and lonely...keep talking and texting baby.  But if you care about her even a tiny bit, check it at the door and walk away from it.  Especially if you are on a date with her...if your paying more attention to it, she will want to reach over the table and shove it down your throat so you choke on it.  (not that I personally know anything about this one!)  Oh and don't make up lame excuses for continually using it; like "I'm map questing, I'm checking the game, this text is super important, I can't not check my emails, they get all backed up if I don't!"  And one last thing...if she asks you to please put it down for a little while, and you get all over her for even asking, you are hurting her more than you know....you are saying "this little black thing is more important than you".  ouch.

Thats it...I DOUBLE DOG DARE YOU TO DO THESE THINGS.  Unless she is legitimately nuts, you will see her transform into something beautiful!...

Please feel free to add to my list in the comments below ;)and men out there...I so want to hear from you on this one!!!


Just in case you are new around here...I'm Gena.
These are my adopted angels and my hunky man! I like to have fun, laugh, and joke around even though I do sometimes have to force myself off of my soap box... so glad you are here for this crazy ride!!


Friday, November 18, 2011

Pinterest... it's like crack... online


Ahhh Pinterest... I swore I would NEVER be a fan... I didn't understand it at first and then once I understood it I thought it was useless and a complete waste of time. UNTIL... dah dah dah... one day I sat down and didn't feel like working and my house was a mess but we all know I didn't feel like cleaning either. So I logged on... and 1.2 nano seconds later I was hooked. No longer could I pass my computer or my phone without getting sucked in to finding the perfect 50s housewife saying taking a quick peak to see what new pins might be calling my name. In the tub, cooking dinner, at a stop light, picking up my son from school... are all now 1000% occupied by pinning! Everything from nasty crocheted man shorts to chubby 10 year olds with mullets end up on my boards. Sometimes I go straight from pinning the workout and body I want to have, to finding a creamy, cheesy, full of butter Paula Dean bacon potato dish.  There's just so much AND really, I can actually justify spending my brain dead time this way because... hey there's tons of crafts and DIY's and great recipes for the family... I'm sure I'll even do one someday...maybe... hey, it could happen!

If you're reading today thinking... wait, is this the same woman who just wrote about being present with her family last week?? Let me just say 1) Un-wad your undies... I still love my children and they have not become orphans to this site yet AND 2) I have set up a fool proof safeguard to ensure my kids don't set the house on fire whilst I'm elbow deep in pictures of 17 pairs of dreamy boots and jeans combos... here it is... I can only hit {SEE MORE PINS} 2x's in any given pinning session .... I may or may not go very slow to make sure I see every last pin as I get closer to the bottom... but darn it I have vowed that my kids won't become tragic victims of their mother's crazy addiction!

So without further ado... adu... adoo... crap, I have no clue how to spell that! Anyhoo... here are my favorite pins for the week!

{Funny Shtuff} this made me laugh out loud in the Dr's office... sitting by myself... 


{Cute Hair} I may or may not have attempted this...


{Cool Stufff!} Ummm of course, is there anything cooler?? I mean really!


{My Style} and favorite category... a girl can dream right?


{For The Home} The caption on this says... I don't have a dog but I have a 4 year old... AMEN!


{FOOOOD!} OK I lied I think this is my favorite category!


{Keeping my monkeys occupied and out of trouble} who doesn't love a nice explosion?


{Christmas} ANNND possibly next week's blog post....


{LIFE} because I am... and so are you...


{How To's} I think even the Anti Martha I can do this one!


Yup... those are my faves... for this week anyway! Wanna win an E.M. T-shirt??? Leave a link to your #1 pin of the week in the comments... and I will choose one random winner at some point this weekend... unless i get busy pinning and forget.. Pin On Ladies!

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New To The EMM Blog?
Just in case you're new around here I thought I'd introduce myself.... I'm the scattered crazy Earth Monkey Mom Lindsay:) And this is my family. My kids never have clean faces, my house is usually a mess and I always have 3-15 loads of unfolded laundry sitting on my couch. I post here on Fridays ...We're glad you're here and we hope you'll stick around... More than anything we want you to know that none of us have it all together... and wether your kids are 40 or 4 you're not alone in your journey through motherhood! 


Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Tales from the "extra" mom... the first conversation


Baseball is a game of timing... 
A single wild pitch or errant throw can be enough to let the go-ahead run get that much closer to home plate. Just as a fraction of a second change in the speed at which a bat is swung can be the difference between a hitting home run or only a very, very long out. No, I’m not actually a baseball person, but as the only female in a home of baseball loving men, in Texas no less (Let’s Go Rangers!), I’ve found that “America’s favorite pastime” has become a pretty large part of my life, and in ways I never thought possible…

Like many parents my boys play little league, starting with T-ball a few years back.
 However, unlike many parents I purposely didn’t attend any of their games. 
The reason for my absence might surprise you – their mom was going to be there. 

Before my husband and I were married, back when I was only “the girlfriend”
I made a deliberate choice to build a relationship with the boys in a way that I thought wouldn’t “encroach” upon their mom’s territory. This balance was a tricky thing and as tensions were high (as I imagine they are even in the most civil divorces), my decision was not to risk adding any extra stress to situations that were supposed to be all about the boys, not their parents. So their mom went to the games and watched them play, but I got to listen to the boys tell me everything that went on during the game the next time I saw them. No - it wasn’t like being there, but in some ways it was better. It was special because it was our ritual and it worked for us. I have never regretted making that choice, and I think that it helped bring us to this season.

When opening day rolled around this year honestly, I was probably more nervous that the players. This would be the first event at which the boys would not only have their dad on the field helping as an assistant coach, but also their mom and stepmom in the stands to watch (insert ominous music). So, at that first game I turned into a total chicken and called my sister-in law and her fiancé who graciously showed up to go the game with me. Yes, it was the easy way out, but the funny thing was that the boys’ mom showed up with a girlfriend from work too! Could have been a coincidence or maybe we were both after a little bit of a buffer…. Fast-forward to the end of the season in which we’ve both been in attendance, have cheered our monkey through strikeouts and homeruns, but have not yet actually spoken to each other. The tension builds – what (if any) will be the first words uttered????

Well, the question was answered on our way to the parking lot after the game. While carrying a cooler, lawn-chair, and purse that my 7 year old could probably camp in, she slipped a little and bobbled the cargo. Without even thinking (as my brain was basically tired from the possible scenarios of doom that had been playing in my head for most of the evening) I asked, “Do you want a hand?” and then immediately froze – uh oh!
Conversation barrier had been breeched! Mayday! Red Alert! 
I think I know what a deer in headlights actually feels like because at that moment I was acutely aware of my world coming to a complete halt as she slowly turned to look my way. Brace for impact!

And the response was….“No thanks, I think all this stuff is balanced so if I let go I’ll probably tip over” spoken with the sort of smile/grimace that all mom’s have at the end of a long day. Then shockingly enough I spoke again, and she replied again, and we continued on in this pattern. We were basically just having the kind of typical, boring conversation that you have with relative strangers who share the common task of hauling the essential supplies of childhood (i.e. junk) home from little league games. Nothing profound was said, however I’m pleased to report that no biting comments were exchanged either. I really don’t even remember much – except for the ever-lengthening stride of my husband (who looked as though he was trying out for the Olympic race-walking team) as he headed to the car in front of us. Apparently, I wasn’t the only one worried about the “initial contact”!

Needless to say all parties safely reached their vehicles and the next few minutes were spent busily loading gear and kids, and doing the parking lot goodbyes that are pretty common for kids with two families. Once safely ensconced in our car (sans kids, as it was one of their nights to stay at with their mom), my husband turned to me and in a voice that was a equal parts curiosity and horror, and had previously been reserved only for evaluating my attempts at culinary creativity, asked,
“You two aren’t going to be friends now are you???”

“Um – Noooo, I don’t think so.” I replied easily and enjoyed my first real laugh of the evening. No, we don’t fit the definition of friends, but I don’t think we’re mortal enemies either. At the end of the day we are polite, civilized adults who don’t particularly have anything in common except for wanting what’s best for our kids and well… that’s good enough for me.

While I’m probably never going to be able to quote ball game statistics or understand the beauty of a 6-4-3 double play. I do think there are cases in which life is kind of like baseball – sometimes the anticipation is tougher than the actual pitch and a solid base hit is enough to move the game, or (in my case) the conversation forward.

Meet the Author...
Katie... is an "extra-mom" of two amazing boys and married to very own her "prince charming". She is definitely one of the smartest mama's we know, she has her PhD in Physiology of Reproduction and is a Research Assistant Professor in the Department of Animal Science at A&M in College Station, Texas. Wowsa, she's one busy lady, and we're so blessed to have her visit today!

Monday, November 14, 2011

7 signs that "Sexy" has left the building....Gena


For some crazy reason, I decided that I needed one more thing to do with my time, so I took up knitting. I don't know exactly how or when this inspiration came, so I'll blame it on Pinterest....apparently the hundreds of hours that I have logged into searching for inspiration finally caught up to me, and now I am a "one stitch" knitter...meaning I know one stitch and I'm not afraid to use it! This new "talent" (I say that lightly) caught my husband by surprise the other night when instead of just chilling on the couch while he surfed between Fox, CNN and ESPN (a past time I loathe) I was whipping together a lovely scarf...(alright, so the shape looks more like a square that my 3 year old would draw, but you get the point...) when my husband realized that "sexy has left the building!"
I guess it was a moment for both 
of us that was like...
what the heck just happened to us????

So that kinda got me to thinking...after 8 years of marriage and 2 kids, a dog, a guinea pig and some frogs, was it just a momentary lapse of excitement, was it just a picture of what's to come, or has Sexy REALLY left the building??? So here you go...this is what I came up with to figure it out. I won't however be admitting that these are things learned from personal experience, or if I can give credit to Matt and Sarah some friends that will remain nameless ;)
7 Signs that "sexy has left the building"


1) You put your night-guard in before you even leave the bathroom, and thats not even shecshy with the lights off. (FYI "schecshy" is what "sexy" sounds like with a mouth guard in!)

2) You don't bother taking off any mascara that has migrated down your cheeks during the previous nights sleep...did I just say sleep??? bwahahahaha! whats that???

3)Your "Lingerie" now resembles that of the clothes you used to paint in...oh wait...they ARE the clothes you used to paint in!

4) Your long flowing "Panteen like" locks of hair now look more like they just fell out from under a helmet after a 7 hour motorcycle ride...(although, I do get some credit that my hubbie thinks that fact that I ride a motorcycle is sexy ;) nappy hair and all)

5) Shaving your legs (and we won't talk about grooming the other "parts") is reserved for special occasions...like your annual visit to the gynecologist! 

6) Foreplay has been reduced to a slap on the booty during a game of tag with the kids..

and last but not least...
You know when sexy has left the building when  (drumroll please)...

7) You sit around and knit while your husband watches political news programs!


I put in this little JT video to help us all bring sexy back! Good night...I got to go fish out my lingerie ;)
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Just in case you are new around here..I am Gena, one of the crazy Earth Monkey Moms...I am a mama of two little adopted angels (and I use that term because of how much I love them, not because how they behave ;))...I love to learn, grow and laugh a lot...I'll always be honest, like "yes, those jeans do make your butt look big" and I'll never stop trying to come up with new ways to not loose my mind.  Thanks for jumping on our crazy ride!!!

Friday, November 11, 2011

{Purposeful Presence} confessions of the absent mom


Have you ever mindlessly said "YES" when your kids ask to do things like jump off of the roof with umbrellas or play chase with hammers because your focusing so much on the 17 other things on your plate at that moment?? (oh, I know I"m not the only one!!:)) The other day I took a break from working, turned around from my desk and just watched my kids run around like monkeys on crack play. I honestly don't want to admit this... but I started trying to remember when the last time was that I had just hung out with my kids with no schedule or agenda. I honestly couldn't remember the last time I was just fully "there" with them.  Especially lately I always have my phone, out of fear of coming back to 17 texts and 25 facebook messages all needing something from me. I have been distracted and constantly focusing on "hurrying up and doing ... whatever..." so we can move on the to next task. 

It's funny because at the moment our family doesn't go to church (uncrinkle those panties girls, I still love me some Jesus:)) Anyway, one of the major reasons we don't go is because it just doesn't work for our family right now. It always seemed like we were rushing in, trying to keep the kids happy, then I was usually called out because Crew was crying and then we would rush out because I could see the meltdown glaze in Sawyer's eyes after 1 1/2 hours of over stimulation... we realized we were just going to check it off of a list... there was little connection or fellowship... and everything always seemed rushed. 

If my family chooses not to go to church because at this point in our life it's just something we check off of a list... then why on earth would I ever run my family this way?? It's like I make this checklist in my head:

  • Kids fed... Check
  • Kids bathed in the last 3 days... ish... Check
  • Did something fun with each of them today... honestly somedays I don't get the Check for this one.
  • Homework Done... Check
  • Dinner Made... Check
  • Husband greeted... Check
  • Jammies on Kids... Check
  • Kids to Bed ... Check
  • Time with the hubbs... Check

    I go through these almost robotic motions everyday but when I look at this list I realize that the "Check" is crap if I'm not fully engaging with my family. If they feel like they are second to my job, or to anyone that is fighting for my time... my family becomes something I just checked off a list, and I don't want that! It kinda makes my guts hurt to think about. The fact that sometimes I feel more pressure to say "yes" to things I have NO business doing than to make my family first in my life tells me I have my priorities out of whack. Now I'm not the kind of mom who sits down and does crafts and feels the need to entertain my kids all day (and more power to you if you are... it's taken me a long time not to feel guilty about this) BUT I love to wrestle and snuggle and color and burn cookies to a crisp bake with my boys. And sometimes there is nothing better than turning on a cartoon we've watched 1,700 times and snugging up on the couch together to watch it... no phone, no email, no work, no house tours, nothing but my 4 handsome amazing boys and me... 100% present.


    As we go into Thanksgiving and Christmas this year  want to be 1000% present... I want to show my boys that they come first in my life... that their mom loves them more than anything and that I am so blessed to be able to stay at home with them! I want this Christmas season to be filled with purposeful presence...and... presents. To be together and be fully engaged, to serve our friends and family together, to make a difference in someone's life.... together... as a family... not as a super mom trying to pretend I have the energy and grace to keep up with crazy demands... but together as family even in the small stuff.

    One thing that's been on our hearts for a while now is reaching out to moms across the globe, and to make a difference in a mother's life with a purposeful present of some kind. We found an organization called Women's Trust whose mission is to empower women and girls in Pokuase, Ghana, through microenterprise, education, and healthcare, and to inspire others to do the same elsewhere. Giving a woman a small loan there can give her the boost she needs to earn a living and provide for her family... so she can have more purposeful presence with her family... we feel like this is the biggest gift we can give another mother.

    So from now until Christmas, for every  Earth Monkeys gift set you purchase, we will donate $5 toward a micro-loan for a mama in Ghana. Even a seeming small thing like baby gear can have purpose... you can feel good about giving a gift and knowing you're giving the power of presence to a mom a world away. I hope you'll join me in making a choice to give purposeful presents and presence to your family and friends this year! 

    Looking for more products with a purpose? Check out these sites:


    Wednesday, November 9, 2011

    Do Parents REALLY know best??? author Shauna Schober wonders if Bob the tomato could be right???


    “It was Bob the Tomato’s Fault"
    Recently I was listening to “Veggie Tales” in my car (listening because I can’t watch it while driving) and I have found that this is indeed my favorite way to screen children’s movies. Simply because I pick up so much more of the dialog and the dialog is usually the most important part. In this “Veggie Tales,” I believe it was Bob the Tomato that instructed all children everywhere to “listen to your parents, because parents know best!” I chuckled as I heard this and then began to wonder why that was so funny to me?

    Do we really know best?
    Do all parents really know best? I’m sorry but no, no we don’t. At least I don’t! There are plenty of topics and issues that I know nothing about, my list starts with long division and should end somewhere around me freaking out at the sight of ANY spider! I don’t really know what I’m doing, I read magazines and books and listen to the children’s doctor, but do I know how to do any of this stuff? NO! Every morning that my children sleep longer than I do (which has happened all of 3 times in the last 6 years) I freak out and decide something must be horribly wrong with them. I sneak into their room ninja style- dodging toys on the ground, jumping cat-like over the rocking horse in order to not wake them. All just to make sure they are still breathing. This whole display usually ends with me doing something totally klutzy like stubbing my toe on their bed and silently whaling a few curse words, as I hobble out of their room, thinking to myself “Oh my gosh I can go back to sleep!” I bound toward my bed (with a slight limp from my gimpy toe), slide under the covers, close my eyes, breathe deep...and then hear the crying as it echoes down the hall. These are my days and seriously most days I’m just surviving, and praying that my kids do too.

                                          I do know some stuff…
    I shouldn’t be totally harsh though, I do know the basics, fruits, veggies, calcium, reading…don’t do drugs, don’t leave toilet cleaner in the crib- ya know the basics. But I got to thinking about this outrageous claim made by Bob the Tomato, what if some poor child is by chance watching “Veggie Tales” and growing up in say a meth house (I know, not likely but hang with me here a minute.) Should this kid truly believe that his parents know everything and that he should listen to everything they have to say, that they really do know best? Sorry Bob the Tomato, but I have to call you out on this one!

    As a parent it is our responsibility to make sure our kids grow up well, now I’m not gonna lecture you on what my version of “growing up well” is but we have to think about everything we tell them, everything we say around them and everything we do, because really they are like little spies, taking notes on all of our behaviors to one day throw in our faces! sponges.

    Kids need direction…
    Think of it this way, we as parents are map makers, as we raise our children we are supposed to be giving them the life skills they need to survive in the wild. So maybe ask yourself if you are giving your kids the very best map possible? Are you doing your research, and showing them how to live their best life, allowing them to stumble enough to learn but not enough to do permanent damage? Are you working your tail off to guarantee that they have the proper resources around them to stimulate them into becoming high functioning adults? Or are you kinda just throwing out random directions, inconsistently disciplining, maybe even yelling at and criticizing your most precious treasure?

    And no, I’m not talking about your Iphone…
    Yeah that stung me a little too. But let’s think about this, I know when I get in 15 different conversations with friends from literally around the world I kinda-sorta ignore my children. I make excuses, ‘it’s a nice escape,’ ‘ I’m only texting so I can still pay attention to the kids,’ ‘ I’m a multi-tasker darn it!’ But really these are just excuses, let’s make sure our kids know that THEY are our most precious treasures.

    I don’t know anything and I take great comfort in that…
    I don’t know your story. I don’t know how or why you became a parent. I do know you are probably tired so I’ll wrap this up…here’s the thing, you are a parent for a reason, you may not like the reason or even understand it but there is a purpose for you being in this little person’s life. So let’s make Bob the Tomato proud! Let’s be good parents. Let’s be good role models. Let’s make sure our kids have the latest high tech GPS mapping system the military has ever seen…and by that I do not mean go out and buy something (it’s a metaphor, sheesh)- I mean; give them love, freedom, comfort, healthy food, morals, a clean place to live, attention, affection, and enough room to mess up once in while just so they can learn how to pick themselves back up. Give them a good "map."

    Let’s fake it ‘til we make it people…if you don’t think you’re an amazing parent then make the changes it will take to become an amazing parent. If you know you are an amazing parent, please don’t tell the rest of us…it just pisses us off! makes us feel bad about ourselves ;-)

    And one last thing, according to the hallway in my daughter’s preschool, “today’s moments are tomorrow’s memories,” so ya know…let’s not screw this up!                                                                      


    You can check out Shaunas exciting kids book series at waypointbookseries.com





    Shauna... is a stay at home mom of two girls, 
    she's the author of the "Waypoint" book series, 
    and her personal blog"Breathe, Smile, Pray...Repeat." 
    Her girls keep her on her toes, and have been the inspiration for many blog posts, here and on BSPR. 
    She's just an ordinary mom trying to master
     the most natural job in the world.




    Monday, November 7, 2011

    I just might have to eat these words too...someday (Gena)



         Before I became a mother, I used to sit in restaurants and watch toddlers run around, or listen to babies cry, and totally be thinking..."I will NEVER be THAT parent!"  My toddler will NEVER run around and not listen to me...I will NEVER let my child eat things off of the ground...I will NEVER...(you get the point).  I was that completely annoying person that had this crazy image of being the perfect parent with perfect kids..you know, that person I'm talking about right?  Oh and don't even pretend that you weren't the exact same way!  So now, I guess I am totally eating my words, because I am THAT parent.  (check out that link if you want to see what we said before we were parents!) My kids run around out of control, and they do totally gross things I used to wonder why parents would allow...Anyway...now that I have young kids, I kinda think that I am that annoying person again that looks at older kids and parents of older kids and once again I'm thinking...
    "I will never be THAT parent!"   I will NEVER....
    Sooooo I have compiled a list of things I say now, that I'm sure will make me eat my words in the future (you'd think I'd have learned my lesson hu? but noooo..)

    So here it is, my list of...
    THE 10 THINGS I SAY NOW,THAT WILL 
    MAKE ME EAT MY WORDS SOMEDAY...

    ~My child will absolutely not carry a cell phone until they are 16!!  There is no need for a CHILD to have a phone at least until they are driving.  And even then, it will be LIMITED.

    ~I will never feel like I have to be at every single sporting event, and when I do miss a game, I won't feel a bit guilty!

    ~I will never tell the mother of a 3 year old boy to "enjoy these times, they go tooo fast!"  (I'm sure there will be a day when I will forget the "I want to pull my hair out feeling" frustration that this age brings out in me)

    ~My kids will NEVER wear  those stupid tight skinny jeans...or any other ridiculous trendy clothes! (like jeans hanging off their butts! arg!)...mostly because I was such an example of class and sophistication in the 80"s...RIIIIIGHT!

    ~My kids will NOT date before age 18!  And in addition to that, they certainly wont get married before age 25...they will certainly listen to my advice!  (did someone just laugh at me???)

    ~My kids will not play so many sports that we spend our weekends doing only sporting events...I have serious issues with never getting to do anything fun ever, because kids only play sports (I'm so gonna eat my words on this one!)

    ~My daughter will not wear strapless, or short dresses for dances!  I'm a fanatic about covering up my girl...I might even throw a wrap on any girl that shows up to go to a dance with my son if she is hanging out!  (you think I"m joking?)

    ~I will always be a COOL PARENT...meaning, my kids will never be embarrassed by me. And they will want to spend time at our house, with their friends...yes, we will be THAT COOL! (can you be mean and cool???)

    ~My kids will NEVER have computers, tv's or video games in their bedrooms!  (I kinda think this one might stick, check back in 5 years ;))


    ~And last but not least...My teenagers will NEVER backtalk or argue!
    Bwhahahaha....I'm even laughing at myself for that one!!!

    Have any you want to add???  Or maybe you are already eating your words!  We would love to hear about it!!!  And please remember to share us...if you love us ;)

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